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Edition 2026.02.03
In this issue: Are you putting in a lot of effort—at work or in relationships—but feeling less satisfied than you expected?
This issue shows why pushing harder often drains fulfillment, and how using power differently can bring ease, clarity, and better connection.
Featuring insights from Bob, Judith, and the LiveWright Team.
Have you left conversations feeling unfulfilled—like you never really encountered each other, and the engagement lacked reality and the best of each of you. Be it a social or intimate engagement, some conversations leave you feeling more alive than others. Here, we’ll explore what’s happening in the interaction itself, and why fulfillment rises or fades based on the quality of connection, intimacy, or authentic engagement being created between people.
Are you having true intercourse?
Most people don’t think much about connections and quality until there is a problem. They don’t really think enough about nourishing versus draining interactions. True connection versus going through the motions.
Connection is never neutral, it always results from some degree of trust and presence.
It’s either adding or draining, growing—or shrinking—moment by moment.
This is where personal power actually shows up, when we learn to trust.
It is not in effort, but trust and true engagement.
Not in caring more, but more responsible trust that leads to …
… the quality and depth of the interaction.
Fulfillment doesn’t come from intensity or effort.
It comes from the quality and authenticity of engagement—think honesty and full presence.
When interaction is alive, people feel nourished and effective.
When it isn’t, fulfillment fades—even when everything looks successful.
We have so much to give each other if we only learn to trust and become trustworthy.
⭐ Something to Notice
This week, notice moments when conversation feels flat or distant. Were you trusting and fully engaged? Probably not. What was missing? What are you not saying?
An Invitation
For real, genuine, fulfillment and to understand what is really shaping connection and makes it more or less nourishing—and why it so often erodes without people realizing it—I invite you to join me live tomorrow for:
Intercourse: What Men Fail to Understand and What They Can do About It
🗓 February 4 | 5:30–7:30 PM CT
💲 $47 | Replay included
We’ll explore what’s happening beneath everyday interaction, and how engaging it more consciously changes connection, power, and fulfillment.
Assess your engagement and how fully present you are in your engagements this week. What makes some more fulfilling than others.
When you understand how interaction works, personal power becomes something you experience—not something you chase.
LiveWright, and Engage Fully,
Bob
Ever feel like you’re working against yourself—or others—just to make things work? Learn how understanding how you’re wired helps you use your power with less strain, more ease, and better results in relationships and leadership.
Brain science shows that people don’t all use power the same way. Masculine and feminine strengths engage differently. When we try to lead, connect, or communicate in ways that fight our natural strengths, power starts to feel like hard work instead of fulfillment.
I saw this clearly with “Laura,” a leader who came to me exhausted.
She said, “I get things done. People depend on me. But by the end of the day, I feel drained—and I don’t know why.”
Laura had learned to push through.
To stay strong.
To meet expectations—no matter the cost.
She was effective. But everything took effort.
As Laura began to understand how her brain and nervous system naturally work, she could finally see what was draining her.
Laura’s strength is sensing patterns, reading the room, and understanding how people and decisions affect one another over time. But she had trained herself to override that. In meetings, she cut conversations short. She pushed herself to decide faster than felt natural. She ignored her own signals that something wasn’t aligned—because slowing down felt inefficient.
It worked. But it cost her.
Once Laura saw this, she didn’t stop leading. She changed how she used power.
She allowed more context before deciding. She named what she was noticing instead of suppressing it. She trusted her capacity to integrate people and perspectives instead of rushing past them.
The result wasn’t less authority.
It was less strain.
Her effectiveness stayed strong.
Her exhaustion didn’t.
Fulfillment isn’t a reward for effort.
It’s feedback that power is being used in alignment with how you’re wired.
⭐ A Practice to Try:
Where does power feel heavy right now?
That’s often a sign it’s being used in a way that doesn’t fit.
If this feels familiar, join my live workshop this Thursday, February 5 for:
Wired for Power: What Brain Science Reveals About Masculine and Feminine Strengths
🗓 Thursday, February 5 | 5:30–7:30 PM CT
You’ll learn how we are wired differently, with different strengths, and how understanding those differences helps communication, leadership, and connection.
Includes replay access. $47.
Remember, your strengths are not accidental.
When you use them fully—and in ways that honor how you’re wired—power feels more natural, connection becomes easier, and fulfillment begins to return.
LiveWright and Use Power with Clarity,
Judith
Ever feel like something important is missing, but you can’t quite put your finger on what it is? Learn why that feeling matters, and how fulfillment returns when you truly engage, with your life and the people in it.
A few weeks ago, I noticed something unsettling.
I was getting my work done. Sending emails. Meeting deadlines. Having all the conversations and meetings.
But at the end of the day, all I felt was flat.
Yes, stressed. Maybe even burnt out. But… more than all of that, I’d say I felt disconnected—from the work, from coworkers, from my family, even from myself.
Something was just missing.
What finally caught my attention wasn’t how much I was doing—it was how I was doing it.
I was pushing. Powering through. Getting things handled.
So I asked myself a different question:
“Where am I actually showing up—and where am I not?”
The answer was uncomfortable.
I was using power efficiently, but without real engagement.
Conversations were quick.
Tasks were completed.
But very little of me was in them.
I was doing what I thought was expected—what I imagined others wanted—rather than showing up honestly. I wasn’t really in the moment. I wasn’t invested. I was functional, but not alive.
And that’s when it clicked.
Fulfillment doesn’t come from getting things done.
It comes from being in what you’re doing.
When power is used only to manage, produce, or push forward, things keep moving—but aliveness drains away. Life starts to feel thin.
Not because you don’t care.
But because too little of you is actually engaged.
So I tried something different.
I slowed down instead of rushing.
I named confusion instead of moving past it.
I chose connection over efficiency—even when it felt inconvenient.
Nothing dramatic.
But energy returned.
Conversations felt warmer.
Work felt more meaningful.
Relationships felt more real.
I had re-entered my own life.
That’s what I want to share.
Fulfillment isn’t a reward for effort.
It’s a signal that your power is being used in a way that fits.
⭐ Something to Try:
The next time you feel flat or disengaged—especially in a conversation—pause and ask:
“Am I really showing up?”
And then, choose one small way to bring more of yourself into the moment.
Just that small shift connects you to your purpose, and to those around you.
Our upcoming live trainings explore how aliveness, power, and connection actually work:
Intercourse: What Men Fail to Understand (and What They Can Do About it For More Joy & Fulfillment)
🗓 Wednesday, February 4 | 5:30–7:30 PM CT
Wired for Power: What Brain Science Reveals About Masculine and Feminine Strengths
🗓 Thursday, February 5 | 5:30–7:30 PM CT
Each session is $47 and includes access to the replay.
Aliveness isn’t optional. When you skip over it, your work loses depth—and your relationships lose warmth.
When you feel alive, you know your power is being used well.
So when fulfillment fades, don’t push harder.
Engage more honestly.
LiveWright, with Aliveness,
Drs. Bob, Dr. Judith, and the whole LiveWright Team
