Edition 2025.10.10
This month, we’re exploring the science and skills of robust relationships as we head into our 2 free October webinars. It all begins with understanding how deeply connection shapes your brain, your choices, and your future.
In this issue: When relationships leave you feeling anxious, distant, or stuck, it’s not just bad luck—it’s a pattern. Learn how your earliest bonds shape the way you connect, and how to start building stronger, more secure relationships today.
Featuring insights from Judith, Bob, and the LiveWright Team.
When you understand your attachment patterns, you can begin to create relationships that feel safer, stronger, and more satisfying.
You know that quiet ache when closeness feels risky—or when you chase it and still don’t feel met?
Attachment theory helps us make sense of that. Early bonds sketch a template: some of us learned “people are here for me” (secure). Others learned “I might be left alone” (anxious) or “closeness isn’t safe” (avoidant).
One client kept reliving the same loop—yearning for intimacy while bracing for abandonment.
As she began naming her anxious pattern and sharing her needs clearly, she chose partners who could meet her.
Her relationships steadied—and so did she. That’s the power of awareness: it lets you rewrite the script.
⭐ Try This: Notice Your Pattern
This week, when you get triggered, pause and ask: Am I leaning in anxiously? Pulling away? Or staying present?
Then name the yearning underneath (to be safe, seen, close).
You’ll begin to see more clarity in the moment, fewer spirals after conflict, steadier boundaries—and a growing sense that secure connection is possible for you.
Want to learn how to build more secure attachments?
Join us for our 2 FREE Webinars on Robust Relationships:
• Love: The Neuroscience of Connection (Oct. 23) and
• Caring: The Rules of Engagement (Oct. 30)
Each session will help you level up all your relationships.
Register here!
One More Thought:
Your earliest bonds were a starting point, not a sentence.
Every small act of connection you practice now is a repair—and every repair rewrites the story.
LiveWright and write your own story,
Dr. Judith Wright
When you understand how attachment affects your nervous system, you can rewire old reactions into healthier, calmer responses.
Attachment isn’t just psychological—it’s physiological. Early bonding trains your nervous system for how to respond under stress.
• Anxious often looks like fight/flight: heart racing, mind spinning.
• Avoidant often looks like freeze/numb: shutdown, distance.
• Secure helps regulate the whole system so you can stay engaged even when it’s hard.
Here’s an example: A client realized that every argument sent him straight into withdrawal.
He thought that meant “strength.” It was an avoidant response.
When he practiced staying present—lengthening his exhale, naming one feeling, and listening—his marriage softened, and his own baseline calm rose.
Regulation first; good relating follows.
⭐ Try This: Breathe Before You React
When you feel yourself panicking or pulling away, take 3 slow breaths with a longer exhale (e.g., in for 4, out for 6) before you speak.
When you do this, you’ll experience lower stress reactivity, clearer thinking, and conversations that de-escalate faster—because your body is signaling “safe enough to stay.”
Want to learn how to rewire your attachment patterns and strengthen your connections? Join our 2 FREE Webinars on Robust Relationships: Love: The Neuroscience of Connection (Oct. 23) and Caring: The Rules of Engagement (Oct. 30).
Remember: Old fears trained your nervous system—but it can be retrained. Each breath, each pause, each choice to stay present teaches your body a new truth: you’re safe to love and be loved.
LiveWright, and rewire for calm connection,
Dr. Bob Wright
Secure attachment isn’t something you’re either born with or without—it’s something you can build, one small step at a time.
Across our LiveMORE community, we’ve watched people in every decade of life shift attachment patterns.
One woman in her 60s saw how she’d kept people at arm’s length.
She risked a little more openness—a bit more truth in everyday moments—and was surprised: relationships deepened, stress dropped, confidence grew.
What happened surprised her. Small talk turned into real conversations. Within weeks, she felt more at home in her neighborhood—and more confident in herself.
Patterns can change, no matter how long you’ve lived with them. The key is small, consistent practice.
⭐ Try This: Practice Safe Reach-Outs
Each day this week, share one small, personal thing with someone you trust—a thought, a feeling, a memory—and add a simple ask like, “Would you reflect back what you hear?”
You’ll begin to feel a gentle increase in comfort with closeness, more mutual trust, and a clearer sense that you can be real and safe at the same time.
Want to discover how to create more secure, satisfying relationships? Don’t miss our 2 FREE webinars on Robust Relationships: Love: The Neuroscience of Connection (Oct. 23) and Caring: The Rules of Engagement (Oct. 30).
And remember: You can’t change where you started—but you can change where you’re headed. Secure attachment is built choice by choice, through small, brave moments of openness.
When you take those small steps, you don’t just build stronger relationships—you build a stronger you.
LiveWright, and build the bonds that last,
Dr. Bob, Dr. Judith, and the whole LiveWright Team
