Edition 2025.10.29
Our free webinar Caring: The Rules of Engagement goes live tomorrow at 5:30 pm Central Time. There’s still time to register and join us.
You’ll learn how to turn conflict into connection, how to communicate with care, and how to apply the rules of engagement to every relationship that matters to you.
In this issue: When conflict ends without care, cracks slowly deepen. When you add repair afterward, love and trust grow stronger than before. Learn how small gestures of care after conflict are the real secret to robust relationships.
Featuring insights from Judith, Bob, and the LiveWright Team.
When fights end without repair, distance lingers. When you practice repair, love and safety return.
So many of us were taught that the goal of conflict is “resolution.” But life isn’t that neat. Sometimes you won’t agree.
What matters is whether you repair afterward.
I worked with a woman who said that in 20 years of marriage, she and her husband never fully agreed about money.
But after every argument, they reconnected—through a hug, a shared laugh, or a quiet walk.
That simple repair kept them close, even when the issue wasn’t solved.
⭐ Try This: Try a Repair Bridge
After your next disagreement, don’t wait for a perfect solution.
Instead, reach out with a small bridge: a kind word, a touch, or simply saying, “I still care about us.”
Repair bridges remind both people that the relationship is safe—even if the issue isn’t solved yet.
That security strengthens trust over time.
Ready to practice repair tonight?
Join us tomorrow for Caring: The Rules of Engagement at 5:30 pm CT.
Keep This In Mind
Resolution isn’t always possible, and that’s okay. What matters is whether you come back to each other with care.
Repair says, “You matter more than the issue.” And when you live that truth, love not only survives conflict—it grows stronger because of it.
LiveWright, with care that repairs what conflict can’t resolve,
Dr. Judith Wright
When repair comes too late, wounds deepen. When it comes quickly, the nervous system relaxes and trust rebuilds.
The brain’s alarm system (the amygdala) tags conflict as threat and holds onto it.
That’s why small ruptures can feel big.
But timely repair—ideally within 24 hours—downshifts the nervous system and prevents grudges from hardening.
Making this repair an intentional part of your conflict resolution can make a world of difference.
For example: One client noticed that arguments froze him and his partner for days.
But when he committed to repairing the same day—even with a brief, caring text—the whole dynamic shifted.
Fights felt temporary, not fatal.
⭐ Try This: The 24-Hour Repair
Within 24 hours of your next fight, choose one simple action to show care and re-open connection:
• Send a short text: “We disagreed, and you still matter to me.”
• Offer gentle touch: a hand squeeze or hug.
• Name one appreciation: “I’m grateful for how you…”
• Suggest a reset: a walk, coffee, or shared meal.
These gestures don’t erase the conflict, but they remind your nervous system—and your partner—that the relationship is still safe.
That safety lowers stress, prevents grudges, and encourages resolution with growth.
Want to learn the science of timely repair?
Join us at our Caring: The Rules of Engagement workshop tomorrow at 5:30 pm CT.
Remember: Repair is more than a kind gesture—it’s a signal to your nervous system that the bond is safe.
The sooner you send that signal, the quicker stress melts away and trust takes root again.
In that safety, connection deepens, resilience grows, and love becomes something you can count on.
LiveWright, with timely repair that turns stress into safety,
Dr. Bob Wright
When conflict is all about winning, everyone loses. When it’s guided by care, even hard conversations deepen connection.
In LiveMORE, we call caring “the rule that changes everything.”
Why? Because it shifts the focus from being right to being together.
One participant shared that after years of heated fights, she and her spouse began starting every tough conversation with one question: “What would caring look like right now?”
It felt awkward at first. But soon, the fights softened, the tone shifted, and their children even noticed more peace at home.
⭐ Try This: Ask the Caring Question
In your next disagreement, pause and ask: “What would caring look like here?”
This question reframes conflict from adversarial to collaborative. It brings empathy into the room and opens the door for deeper trust.
Join us and learn to bring care into conflict during our workshop tonight: Caring: The Rules of Engagement which starts at 5:30 pm CT.
And remember: Rules create the guardrails, but caring is the road that carries you forward.
Every time you bring care into conflict, you remind yourself and the people you love that the relationship matters more than being right.
That shift doesn’t just change the fight—it changes the whole foundation of your life together.
LiveWright, with caring as your compass in every conversation,
Dr. Bob, Dr. Judith, and the whole LiveWright Team
