Edition 2025.12.04
In this issue: If the holidays feel like a loop of old roles and emotional reactions, you’re not alone. But you can rewrite you script. Learn how to step out of the outdated patterns and experience holiday joy with intention and presence.
Featuring insights from Judith, Bob, and the LiveWright Team.
Instead of trying to fix the stress, learn to stop performing the role that creates it.
Something I’ve noticed seems to happen each year during the holidays: people casting themselves in the same roles—the pleaser, the fixer, the peacekeeper, the avoider, the over-functioner, the strong one, the responsible one.
One client shared that she felt that she was the “holiday glue:” the one who held everything together, made it meaningful, and created connection for everyone else. She even found herself late one night decorating the tree, and realized that she wasn’t feeling any of the holiday joy she desired. Instead, she felt alone, exhausted, and unseen; obligated to keep going for everyone else, with nothing for herself.
What she didn’t realize is that she was stuck in a role. Together, we started to decipher her family scripts, how they came to be, and how she could break free and truly find the joy and connection she yearned for during the holiday season.
Each time she started to notice herself slipping into that role, she would pause and choose differently.
Once that realization sunk in, she started to check in with herself each morning and become intentional in her actions and reactions. She even began quietly checking in with herself throughout the day, closing her eyes when she could for a status check. She told me that as a result, she felt less frantic. And joy began to reappear.
⭐ Try This
Write down one role you often play in your family during the holidays (caretaker, peacemaker, entertainer, etc.) Then ask:
• What is the cost of this role to me?
• What do I really want to experience this year?
By doing this, you can start to become more than a character in someone else’s story, you return to your real self: connected, alive, and present.
Want to learn how to step out of roles and into power?
Join us for our FREE live webinar:
Power: Your Holidays Reimagined | December 11, 5:30–7:30 PM CT
One More Thought:
You don’t need to fix the holidays. When you stop abandoning yourself in them, you’ll find yourself on the path to becoming more whole, so you can choose the joy you seek.
LiveWright with presence and choice,
Dr. Judith Wright
Power doesn’t come from control or performance.
It begins in the moment you pause long enough to see the pattern you’re in.
A client once told us about a recurring tension with her brother during family gatherings.
The arguments weren’t really about what they were saying. They were actually about years of unspoken resentment. She realized she had been reacting from old emotional scripts.
Together, we worked on “the pause.” At the next gathering, she recognized her rising frustration and chose to pause, breathe, and ask herself what she was really feeling.
That tiny shift gave her power. She responded calmly, and the entire conversation changed.
Just because “you’ve always done it that way” doesn’t mean it’s still serving you. Power is the ability to pause, reassess, and choose again.
⭐ Try This
Notice when you feel yourself gearing up to react.
Then pause and ask:
• What part of me is activated right now.
• What would it look like to respond from a more adult part of myself?
This pause can help interrupt emotional autopilot, so you can reclaim presence and act from values, not volatility.
Want to learn our full method for reclaiming power during intense seasons?
Join us December 11 for the FREE webinar
Power: Your Holidays Reimagined | 5:30–7:30 PM CT
One More Thought:
Remember that you get to choose. Power happens when you pause. Observe your emotional state, and choose your response.
LiveWright, with strength and awareness,
Dr. Bob Wright
You don’t have to white-knuckle your way through the holidays. Learn how to manage your energy so the season feels life-giving, not draining.
Too many of us approach the holiday season like it’s a sprint: cramming in events, obligations, and family time only to feel so depleted by the time we get to the moments that matter most that we’re practically running on fumes.
One of the most overlooked aspects of holiday well-being is energy awareness. Most people don’t stop to notice how much energy they have before making commitments or heading into emotionally loaded situations.
But when you begin paying attention to your energy levels each day, you start to catch subtle cues—tension in your shoulders, a mental fog, a short fuse. These signals give you valuable information about what you need and where to make adjustments.
⭐ Try This
Every morning this holiday season, take 3 minutes to ask:
• How is my energy today—physically, emotionally, mentally?
• What’s one small adjustment I can make to care for myself?
Your well-being is not negotiable. You are allowed to say no. And when you do, you stop getting knocked over by the holidays and start pacing yourself for presence, connection, and vitality.
Want tools to fuel your power instead of leaking it?
Join us December 11 for the FREE live webinar:
Power: Your Holidays Reimagined
🕔 5:30–7:30 PM CT
The holiday season is shaped by the energy you bring to it. Tracking your energy—and saying no when you need to preserve it—brings more joy to you, and more you to those you love.
Your power is available now—one pause, one intention, one choice at a time.
LiveWright, with power and intention,
Dr. Bob, Dr. Judith, and the whole LiveWright Team
